Soo... It's been a minute since I've written anything of substance worth even pushing publish, so I'm taking a crack at it tonight. I moved to Vegas (look at post from circa 2010?) finally over a year ago, and my life has actually calmed down for the most part. I've met some great people, a few I actually consider friends, and I've met probably the most amazing man I could have ever imagined and I'm lucky enough to call him my boyfriend. Other than that I'm pretty much a loner and I love it. I have acquaintances, and sure there are times when I am lonely, but my group of friends from home visit often, and I know there is always someone I can call to hang out with when I'm super bored - and shocker - it's not always about going out and drinking!!!
Now, my life is pretty lame. I really don't do much, but work, dance every once in a great while, and occasional dinners with friends here and there. I do get to go to Colorado monthly, but even that is more just to see him and not for partying. Which is how I like it. Which is another blog all in itself, so stay tuned for that one later. But because I have my normal spots I go too, I see the same people. I line dance, and there's only so many places to do that in Vegas, (3 to be exact, well 2 until Stoney's opens back up) so you see the same people at every place. You become "friends" with them, you are on facebook with people because you recognize them when your out, etc. You hear the girls say the same thing over and over and over- "Ugh, I hate drama." "Drama is not welcome here" blah blah blah. But you always notice the girls who post about drama, are always the ones who are involved in it, or trying to start it, etc. That's a well known fact. The girls who don't talk about it, don't have it. Now I think every girl, no matter what, has some sort of "drama" in her life. Whether it be friends, work, boyfriend/husband, family, etc... It's how you handle it that makes it dramatic.
Let's look at the definition of the word drama: any situation or series of events having vivid, emotional, conflicting, or striking interest or results. (Thank you dictionary.com) or even dramatic: Employing the form or matter of the drama.
Almost every event in our life has one of these elements, whether it be emotional, interesting, vivid, or conflicting. It's human nature. Do some people emphasize the emotional parts? Absolutely. Do some people make conflicts for no reason? On occasion. Is every little detail considered interesting to some people? Sure, if those people are narcissistic, or if they are extremely insecure, they over compensate for their insecurities by posting every detail of their life, just to prove they have one!
Now, I will not sit here and tell you I've never had drama. Of course I have. I am an extremely emotional female at times, and I blow things out of proportion sometimes, and I get upset over the littlest things. But I feel I do a good job at not blasting other people in public, or making huge scenes. (I've done that once or twice, and it's never ended good, so why do it??) But I constantly see the same girls posting about drama, and how they hate it, and they aren't dramatic, etc blah blah blah (insert index finger in mouth) Part of me just wants to go up to them and say honey- YOU ARE THE DRAMA. Sure they may not cause it, but they react to it and play into the people who are just as dramatic! Weren't we all taught when we were younger that if you were being made fun of, or being talked about, to just ignore it and it will go away, or they'll eventually stop? Guess what, the same applies to drama! If you ignore it, or stop talking about it, or stop blasting people on social sites, it will go away!!!! But if every other status or comment is "so and so is prank calling me" or "UGH I hate my friends, they ask me to come out here with them and I don't have a job, but I moved for them, and now they won't cater to me" I can guarantee you, because you are also that person who friends everyone and their mother on facebook, that they are going to read it and then it's going to get ugly. There's your drama. If you have an issue with someone, talk to them. Don't blast them on social media sites. It's rude, immature, and honestly, it's not the rest of the world's problem, or the rest of your friends' problems. It shows your level of maturity (or lack of it) when you can't privately and respectfully go up to that person to vent to them. You don't need to vent to everyone and their mother about it. That's what your friends are for, not social media.
Now if you are reading this, and you know you have drama in your life, look at your habits and surroundings. You put yourself in the middle of it, you can take yourself out of it. YOU have the ability to clear out the people in your life that cause it, and YOU have the ability to grow up and out of it and move on. I truly wish I could give people the ability to stand outside their situation, and look at it from an analytical point of view. You know when people talk about you, it's jealousy. When boys make fun of you, they like you (well at least in middle school). What you need to learn to do is be the better person when they are talking about you, and know it may be jealousy, but be the better person. Let it go. Don't toot your own horn saying it's because all these girls are jealous of me. That makes you look conceited, and vain. Those are two looks that never look good on anyone. If you truly are as sweet, calm, and laid back as you claim to be, no one would have any right to talk, or have anything to talk about, right? I'm just sayin....
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