So there's this myth that everyone tells at one point in their life. It's "let's be friends". Now, there are times when its really not a lie. I truly believe that some people are better off friends than lovers, but other times I think people say it because they are trying to hide what they really want to say. Like, you're hot, and we have a ton of fun, and we don't get on each others nerves, but I'm waiting for someone better.... or whatever the case may be. Seriously, its not like I'm asking for marriage, I'm not even asking for a relationship. I want to be able to hang out and have fun, and not have to worry about boundaries or not being too flirty, or if I get tipsy, not having to worry about wanting to kiss him or whatever, without feeling like I'm pushing the boundaries.
It's not like guys just use that phrase. Girls are completely capable of it too. I've done it, I've used it. I have told guys that have been interested that I just wanted to be friends. I feel like its the easiest way to let them down. I remember using it on a guy, the same time he was asking me to be his girlfriend. I feel horrible about it, but I just couldn't see myself being in a relationship with him. I think thats the reason the line is used. It's not like you don't want to hurt them, its that you just don't want them. You still want them in your life, you still truly want to be friends, but you just don't want them in the way they want you.
It sucks when the line is used on you. Its kind of like you're good enough to be my friend, but not good enough to be more. Or I'm attracted to you, and have to set boundaries because I know I won't be able to stop myself if there aren't boundaries. If there is that kind of attraction it should be sort of a sign right??? If there's a pull to each other its kind of like duh. It's just a phase I'm hoping. I'm just over it. I can be friends, I can be the best friend anyone can have :) That's all I guess. Good night.
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